Nelson Como

Male 1810 - 1887  (76 years)


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  • Name Nelson Como  [1
    Born 18 May 1810  Rouville, Quebec Find all individuals with events at this location  [1
    Gender Male 
    Died 7 Mar 1887  Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  [1
    Person ID I2068  My Genealogy
    Last Modified 3 Jul 2021 

    Father Jean Baptiste Comeau,   b. 20 May 1781, Chambly, Quebec Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 14 Oct 1865, Dunham, Quebec Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 84 years) 
    Relationship natural 
    Mother Marie Hypolithe Aupry dit Laramee,   b. 15 Sep 1783, Chambly, Quebec Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 9 Oct 1823, Rouville, Quebec Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 40 years) 
    Relationship natural 
    Married 9 Jun 1802  Chambly, Quebec Find all individuals with events at this location 
    Family ID F1818  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

    Family 1 Marinda Tyrrell,   b. Nov 1834, Cornwall, Ontario Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 3 May 1910, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age ~ 75 years) 
    Married 17 Oct 1854  Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location 
    Children 
     1. William Como,   b. Oct 1855, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 9 Jul 1939, Tampa, FL Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age ~ 83 years)  [natural]
     2. John W. Como,   b. Dec 1857, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 4 Jun 1929, Yorkville, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age ~ 71 years)  [natural]
     3. George Como,   b. 11 Jan 1859, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 16 Jan 1938, Canton, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 79 years)  [natural]
     4. Maria Como,   b. 1862, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. Bef 1870, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age < 7 years)  [natural]
     5. Marie Malvina Como,   b. 26 Jan 1870, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 11 May 1952, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 82 years)  [natural]
     6. Minnie May Como,   b. 22 Aug 1876, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 21 Dec 1966, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 90 years)  [natural]
    Last Modified 3 Jul 2021 
    Family ID F6829  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

    Family 2 Elizabeth Marinda Holmes,   b. Abt 1824, Watertown, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. Abt 1848, Watertown, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age ~ 24 years) 
    Married 1839  Watertown, NY Find all individuals with events at this location 
    Children 
     1. Henry Como,   b. May 1840, Watertown, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 26 Feb 1903, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age ~ 62 years)  [natural]
     2. Nelson Como, Jr.,   b. 14 Oct 1841, Watertown, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 23 Jan 1931, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 89 years)  [natural]
     3. Eathen Allen Como,   b. 2 Sep 1843, Watertown, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 15 Aug 1910, Ogdensburg, NY Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 66 years)  [natural]
     4. Frances A. Como,   b. Abt 1848, Watertown, NY Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 1885, Oconto, WI Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age ~ 37 years)  [natural]
    Last Modified 3 Jul 2021 
    Family ID F7  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

  • Notes 

    • Timeline:

      - 1810: Nelson Como is born Narcisse Comeau at Rouville, about 15 miles east of Montreal, Quebec, where his father farms. It is a hard life, and Nelson grows up watching various of his siblings die at early ages. When he is 12 in 1822, his last sibling by his natural mother is born at Rouville and lives just two months.
      - The next year, in October, 1823, Nelson's mother dies when he is only 13. His oldest sister Emile married the previous year and has left the home, leaving only Nelson and two sisters, Marie Agathe, 9, and Marie Julie, 7, at home. Six of the 10 children of his mother have died by this point.
      - In July, 1826 when Nelson is 16, his father marries Scholastique Bruneau by whom he had a daughter two months previously. In 1829, Flavie is born and in 1830, Joseph.
      - Between 1835-1838, Nelson comes to Watertown, NY as a hostler (tending horses) at the American Hotel, where he boards.
      - 1839: In the spring, Nelson marries Betsy Marinda Holmes, who lives in a Watertown suburb called Brownville.
      - 1840: Their first son Henry is born. From the 1840 census, it may be that Marinda and baby are still residing with her family.
      - 1840: Marinda's mother, Elizabeth Betsy Holmes, dies.
      - 1841: Nelson junior is born. We don't know whether Nelson/Marinda are still with her father's family or living in rental property.
      - 1843: Eathen is born.
      - 1843-1848: Sometime in 1840s Marinda's father dies and the family scatters. The youngest is a daughter 14-15.
      - 1848: Daughter Frances is born.
      - 1848: Marinda dies. There is a story that Marinda developed arthritis very early in life and was cared for very lovingly by Nelson for several years before she died.
      - 1850, Aug. 13: Nelson is still a hostler for the American Hotel and he is now boarding there. Apparently he has no home for his three sons and his daughter since the boys are scattered around Watertown in various homes and his daughter is with the Stark family in Colton, St. Lawrence County. It may be that Nelson lived with Marinda's family and that after the family broke up, he placed the kids in homes and went back to American Hotel to live while paying support.
      - 1850-51: Nelson relocates to Ogdensburg, NY with his sons, taking a job as a hostler at one of the several stables in the city. Frances remains in Colton where she is found in the 1860 census.
      - 1854: Nelson marries Marinda Tyrrell of Cornwall, Ontario, across the St. Lawrence River from Massena, St. Lawrence, NY.
      - 1855: William, their first son, is born and other children follow.
      - 1860: Nelson's two older sons by Marinda Holmes are living on their own in Ogdensburg: Eathen, 17, is not found in this census while Nelson and Marinda Tyrrell Como are raising their family; Nelson is still a hostler.
      - 1865: Nelson's father dies at Dunham, Quebec.

      Note: William and Marinda had sons Henry in 1840; Nelson in 1841 and Eathen in 1843. Daughter Frances, b. 1848, was found only after a DNA connection. Between 1843 when Eathen was born and 1848 when Frances was born Marinda likely had other children, likely girls who also would have been put up in foster homes and taken the name of their foster parents. Whether in fact she did will have to await DNA connections.
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      - 1810: St. Jean Baptiste-Rouville Parish record: In the year 1810, the 18 of May, by me, priest who has signed, has been baptized Narcisse, born today, of the legitimous marrriage of Jean-Baptiste Commeau, shoemaker, of this parish, and of Marie Hypolithe Aubry dite Laramée. The godfather and godmother were Jean-Baptiste Gaboury and Marie-Françoise Pépin, who with the father, have said being unable to sign.

      - Nelson arrived at Watertown, NY between 1835-1838. He is not found in the 1835 NYS census, but is found in the 1840 Directory for the City of Watertown: Como, N, hustler, American (hustler is a mispelling of hostler, which refers to one employed to look after horses for an Inn or other establishment.) Nelson tended horses for the American Hotel where he resided.

      - 1850: Watertown, Nelson Como, age 35, male, born in Canada. (By this date, Nelson had four children by his first wife Marinda Holmes, who died in 1847-48. The children had been placed in various families in the Watertown area. By 1854, he was living in Ogdensburg where on Oct. 17, he married Marrinda Turrill.)

      - 1860, St. Lawrence County, Ogdensburg, 1st Ward, Nelson Commo is 47 years old, working as a Hoster (hostler) and was born in Canada. He is listed as not being able to read or write. He is living with wife Marinda (25), and three sons William (5), John (3) and George (6 months). Nelson and Marinda were both born in Canada, all three sons were born in New York state.

      - 1863 Ogdensburg city directory: Como, Nelson, laborer, h. Main near RR

      - 1865 N.Y. state census, Ogdensburg, Nelson is 52 and working as a hostler. He is listed as having been born in Canada. He is living with his wife Marinda (32) and children William (7), John (6), George (4) and maria (3).

      - 1869 Ogdensburg directory: Como, Nelson, laborer, h. near King between Lawrence & Jefferson Aves.

      - 1870, Ogdensburg, Nelson is 54, born in Canada. He is working as a day laborer. He is living with his wife Marida (38) and children William (14), John (12), George (10) and Lavina (1). All the children were born in New York state.

      - 1880, Ogdensburg 2nd Ward, Nelson is 68 years old and is working as a laborer. He is living on Albany Avenue with his wife Marinda (44) and children William (24), John, 22; George (20), Lavina (11) and Mary (7). Living next door on one side are Ethan and Letitia Como, and on the other side Nelson Como Jr., Emma, and children Nathan, Cora and Bessie.

      - There is a second entry for Nelson Como in the 1880 census, showing a different age: Nelson Como, 60, works as a servant at a hotel at 158 State Street. The implication is that Nelson lives at this address and perhaps he does, with his family on Albany Avenue.

      - Ogdensburg city directory, 1883-4, Como Nelson, laborer, h. 95 Albany aveue

      - Death record: Nelson Como, aged 75 years died 7 March 1887. He was a laborer and was born in Canada. His father was John Como, his mother was Margaret. He died of pneumonia and old age. C.C. Benton was the attending physician.

      - Ogdensburg Cemetery index of burials: Item #2477 is for Nelson Como, buried 9 March 1887. He died at the age of 75.

      - Letter from Judy Fritz, 14 JUL 1987: Judy Fritz wrote that her grandmother (Elizabeth Como Proctor) told her a story about her grandparents. Her grandmother, whom she thinks was originally a LaPoint married Nelson Como. The LaPoint family was from Boston and considered Nelson to be quite beneath her, and disinherited her. She said the young bride (Marinda Holmes) developed arthritis very early in life and was cared for very lovingly by her husband Nelson for several years before she died. Her gradmother also said the the Como family was related to the aide-de-camp to Napolean and to Ethan Allen of the Green Mountain Boys.
      The second wife of Nelson Como Jr. and not senior, was named Armeline Bertrand, born in Canada in 1841. Her mother, Margaret Cavalier Bartrand, was previously married to Paul LaPointe, with whom she had five children. She married Theophile Bartrand after Paul LaPointe died. Nelson Sr.'s first wife was Marinda Holmes and he very likely cared for her before her death, after which he married Marinda Turrill. While the family is related to Napoleon's captain of artillery, Baron Sebastien Joseph Francois Comeau; there is no relationship to Ethan Allen.

      - Why did Nelson leave his family in Quebec to come to Watertown, NY and then Ogdensburg? According to "French Canadian Emigration to the United States, 1840-1930" by Claude Belanger, "the fundamental underlying causes of French-Canadian emigration can be found in the unequal levels of industrial development and standards of living between Quebec and New England. The industrial gap, combined with structural problems which plagued Quebec’s agriculture during the 19th and the first half of the 20th century, created an economic climate where thousands of French Canadians were pushed to emigrate in order to earn a living. By the 1830s and 1840s, Quebec’s most fertile farm land had been systematically occupied, leaving mostly peripheral regions open to agricultural colonisation, and thousands of landless farmers searching either for affordable, accessible and fertile land, or gainful employment. Between 1784 and 1844, Quebec’s population increased by about 400 percent while its total area of agricultural acreage rose only by 275 percent, creating an important deficit of available farmland."

  • Sources 
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